Facing the Anger and Healing the Brokenness of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES 4) - Conclusion

Outline:

2:41 We put expectations on people because they have a nice hairstyle, they dress nice, they talk a certain way, but we don't know their heart unless we speak with them deeply.

4:47 Learn to be an overcomer and tell your story.

6:46 We must be patient. Renewing our mind takes time.

10:46 The more a person allows heartaches and the trauma to be a part of their routine, the harder it is to lift oneself out of it.

12:18 We need to seek and allow for the Holy Spirit of Christ to lead us in our healing and deliverance from evil.

14:05 Unfortunately, it's not uncommon for innocent children to be put in horrible situations because of choices that other people unlovingly make.

18:21 God wants us to live in newness of life daily, not in the pains and sorrows of the past.

Highlights:

Time mark: 2:51

We must humble ourselves to come to the place where we have godly sorrow that works to lead us to repentance, to being saved, healed, and delivered.

2 Corinthians 7:10-12

"Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death."

"See what this godly sorrow has produced in you, what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what anger, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter."

"So even though God's Word brings instruction, it is neither on account of the one who did the wrong nor on account of the injured party, but rather that before God you can see for yourselves how to be devoted to the well-being of everyone."

I recognize that I need God. I recognize that it's okay to question when I'm going through heartaches and I can go to God to talk about my cares and anxieties because I know He cares for me and if I have any doubts, I'm going to talk to Him and reconcile my understanding of why things happened.

His Holy Spirit is here for me, and as my Comforter He's going to lead and guide me in His Word to learn and work through what I must do to be made whole.

Time mark: 6:43

Patience and long suffering is essential. These fruits of the Spirit are important to pray for when working through adverse childhood experiences and adult adverse experiences. We must be determined to face these realities maturely in the present with Jesus, not reacting in the moment as we had to do when they occurred.

We must understand the world around us, adapting to our environment, understanding where we are in the present, making it our purpose to contribute positively to our local society rather than to negatively burden those around us because we haven't yet been healed of heartaches and traumas.

We need to learn how to get the upper hand and the victory in dealing with emotions, stress, and anxiety. We must set our minds on reasonable expectations and responses to the society of people with whom we now interact day to day.

We must commit ourselves to spend time pursuing our healing and deliverance from the evil spirits and their thoughts that seek to keep us down in negativity. With the help of the Comforter, the Holy Spirit of God, we can renew our mind to Christlikeness, His love, peace, and joy ruling and reigning in our heart, mind, and body!

Time mark: 12:33

Psalms 51:17

"The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit, a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou will not despise."

God sees what happens. He knows what the devil tries to do. He knows that devils comes to kill, to steal, and to destroy. Due to the sin nature that's in the earth because of the decision of Adam and Eve, there's good and there's evil in the world.

Abuse and trauma happen and God sees when you are broken, but God is a gentleman and He wants us to come to Him as He instructs in His Word:

James 4:1-3
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"What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight."

"You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures."

James 4:6-10

He gives us more grace. That is why scripture says:

"God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble."

"Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you."

"Come near to God and he will come near to you."

"Wash your hands you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded."

"Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom."

"Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up."

Some will ask, "Why did God let this happen?" It's not God's will that bad things happen. People are connected one to another and effect one another, our family members, generations, friends, even acquaintances. These connections are openings for adverse negative experiences to effect our lives. People around us are making choices and decisions that affect us, that do not honor God's rightful and holy ways, thereby breaking down the protection that He expects us to provide for one another.

Time mark: 15:00

Sometimes innocent children are put in horrible situations because somebody made a choice that was negative, derogatory. Unfortunately, some of us suffer the outcome of those things. God gives us opportunity to get made right. The sacrifices of God are broken spirit. Lord, I'm broken, but I choose to overcome the sadness of having been abused.

I'm upset that when I was young I was told that I couldn't have what should have been normal. I was not provided for as a person should have been provided for, and those who should have been responsible to care for me, expected me to accept being poorly treated.

I'm angry that my mother or father hit me in the head and said mean, hurtful things to me, comparing me to others in a bad way. Speaking negativity to me that put me down, causing me to feel like I was inadequate and less than others, that I was never going to amount to anything, as if I were a curse.

We've been broken. We're not in denial of these hurts, heartaches, and traumas. But now that we're grown up and know Christ, what are we going to do with this anger? Get our healing and deliverance!

Anger is a warning sign, telling us that we need to get understanding of what's wrong, what went wrong, why did something happen that was not right, not in God's design? Whether we did something wrong or we did nothing wrong, we need to know how to go forward not exasperating and prolonging the pain, and causing others to suffer because we're in pain. We need to go seek to reconcile our understanding with God and with man, and be healed of the pain, so that we are no longer in pain, so that we are not inflicting our pain upon others. We need to come to Jesus to be healed for ourselves, for God, and for others, to foster peace, harmony and joy!